As I stared at my computer screen, I couldn't move a muscle. I felt tension. Stress. A blank stare.
Most people would say that Jess is someone who always has it together. They wonder how she does it all? You're probably curious yourself. What I would like to share is that the day to day is definitely not always rainbows, butterflies and rose colored glasses..although my dream would be that it was!
This week I was having a day of overwhelm..a day where I was stopped in my tracks. I felt it in my heart, in my mind and in every fiber of me. Everything in me wanted to keep pushing through to suppress the emotions I had been feeling. Hey, I am naturally good at that. That's been what has "worked" for me for most of my life until the past few years realizing that if I keep living this way it will catch up with me in the long run and I will eventually explode. NO one wants that, am I right?
We as humans are like onions, layer upon layer upon layer. The hardest part is when we don't stop to notice what our emotions are and what to do with them, those emotions will keep getting built up on top of each other where one day you it will all catch up to you. Believe me, I have been there. I didn't know HOW to feel until I was in counseling and really intentionally paying attention to some hardships in my own life I had no choice but to feel them.
I had a moment the other day that I could have done with I used to do and keep going when I felt paralyzed OR I could reset and figure out what I was feeling in order to move forward. So that is what I did.
1.I went for a quick 20 minute workout to clear my mind and get my blood flow going.
2.I then cooked a delicious brain fueling meal.
3.Then I sat with my journal and asked myself "what are you feeling?"
My response was this:
"I am irritated"
"I am overwhelmed"
"I am frustrated with myself"
4. I then asked myself the reasons and listed them down.
5. Then I asked myself "What is the reality?"
"The reality is I am willing, able and capable."
6. I talked to my mentor and coach. Hey, a coach needs a coach too!
With the help of my coach and taking the time to reflect, this is where I got clear on what I need to do.
After going through this process I was able to do something about it. I felt the emotion, I got clear on where it was stemming from and then I was able to break free. See guys, if you are wondering WHY you're stuck there are reasons for it. There is probably something you haven't taken the time to consider what those things could be. Being BUSY is not going to help the root of the issue, it is going to work for you for a while until one day you wonder how you keep getting stuck in the same rut.
Can you relate? If so, I'd love to know, send me a message and let me know how this resonated with you!
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